DIRECTOR'S NOTE: UNCOMMITTED

While good people may not need the law enforcement system to control them, so called bad people will always find a loop hole to escape the law. Most of the time people who could not afford expensive lawyers will land up being sentenced. The same rule applies in the current marriage system, mostly in advanced countries.

The marriage system was started in rich communities to protect their assets and in poor communities to manage the children. There exist a conception on marriage that human beings always had a 'marriage' system. But there is enough evidences to show that it has was discovered in the Sumerian era of 2500 BC.

Marriage is a legal contract. The pre-historic marriage system rules are totally different from the marriage system that exist now. For example, if the husband dies, the widow should marry the husbands brother in order to maintain the assets within the family. Man could marry more than one woman. Man was the custodian of the children. Marriage rules have changed over time but not during recent times. Somewhere in the middle religions have influences the marriage system and taken ownership and now it’s part of a religion. It also has become a tool for politicians to control the people. Women have been granted more rights and allocated additional powers in the legal system. The current marriage system is not perfectly aligned with the current life styles of man and woman.

A 2002 in the United States estimated that 45% to 55% of married women would engage in sexual relationships outside of their marriage. While the estimates for males in the same study were greater 50%–60%. This data indicates that a significant portion of married women have or have had sexual partners outside their marriage.

According the 2011 survey the Divorce rate is 53% in the United States. In the United States, researchers estimate that 40%–50% of all first marriages, and 60% of second marriages, will eventually end in divorce. A recent national survey found that the most common reason given during a divorce was “lack of commitment” (73% said this was a major reason). Other significant reasons included too much arguing (56%), infidelity (55%), marrying too young (46%), unrealistic expectations (45%), lack of equality in the relationship (44%), lack of preparation for marriage (41%), and abuse (29%).

Does commitment gives freedom to an individual? Or a (marriage) commitment in the land of freedom makes a person to be really be free? Men are known to avoid commitment in a relationship (male-female). Naturally men are promiscuous. If our biology indeed wanted men and women to be into marriage it would not have made men so promiscuous.

According to the famous book: men are from Mars and women are from Venus. They have just too different views on life based on opportunity and ambition. It seems very difficult to keep man and woman attached to the same bond with their differences in priorities. Married people compromise on their life for the sake of children, financial dependency, society, family and friends etc. Divorce rate has been increasing across the world while the number of weddings is dropping. That being said that marriage system is cracking. In the UK for the first time in 2013 the number of births to unmarried parents exceed that of married parents by 53% to 47%

Is the drive for individual freedom the culprit for failure of our marriage system? Is marriage important or individual freedom important for an individual? If the answer is 'individual freedom' then is sustaining marriage realistic? Understanding the differences in wants and desires between man and woman, either marriage rules have to be changed or replaced with some other system to protect 'the family' - both conceptually and in practice. The concept of 'Uncommitted' developed with this backdrop in mind. This is a story based on a relationship between an Objectivist who does not believe in the current marriage system and one who believes in the marriage system.

By Chandu Yarram